While speaking to a friend of mine, we started discussing the difficulty of accepting money or gifts from others. We aren’t big earners compared to the rest of the crew we hang out with. So the discussion always comes down to what can we afford to do with them and what do we have to skip. We aren’t going to go travelling to Europe if we are saving up for a trip to South-East Asia.
We aren’t going to go out to a fancy restaurant with them if the meal will cost our whole day’s pay. There are other examples but the main idea is we have to choose. It isn’t lack of love for our friends or the inclination to spend time on our own. We just do not have the funds to spend on the number of activities our friends choose to take part in. If choosing between paying bills, saving up and going out, we are definitely going to choose the former two.
Sometimes our friends offer to pay for our meals, and some other trips. It is done out of the graciousness and generosity of their big hearts. They want us to be able to enjoy as much as they do. Because they love us, they offer to pay for us. But my friend and I were discussing how we have such a hard time accepting gifts from our friends. We think of it as charity and as pride cometh before fall, we refuse to accept any charity. We are too good for it in our minds.
The reality is that we should let our egos fall back in such cases, and consider anything that anyone gives us as a gift from the universe. The universe/God/Allah/Ram, whatever you wish to call the higher force, wants you to have fun. The universe is there to take care of you. It wants you to be healthy, happy and filled with joy. It isn’t there to judge and bring you down. It is sending you a message through your friends and family that you need to be taken care of for a little bit.
Accept the gifts that are coming your way in any shape or form. They are there because you deserve them in some way. Do not let your ego pull you back into thinking this is charity and you do not deserve it or you are too good for it.