I was speaking to an ex of mine a few months ago, and his lament about his girlfriend came floating back to me, while I was packing up clothes from my closet to donate. He was complaining that because his girlfriend has so much stuff, they literally didn’t have enough space in all the closets to fit it in. She took over all the closet space in all of their apartment, resulting in him having to squeeze his few paltry items into one drawer, that she graciously bestowed upon him.
He was upset about it to say the least. He felt like a guest in his own home, because his girlfriend could not control her spending and refused to get rid of any of her stuff, in order to fit a loving boyfriend into her life. This made me wonder.
Why do we pay more attention to the stuff in our life, than to the relationships? Why do we take care of our cars and phones better than our health? Of course, these questions don’t really matter in the scheme of things. The more important thing is to make sure that your priorities are aligned with your values. If you value stuff, then go ahead and buy more things, ignore your relationships, because you are too busy working to make the money that you need to buy the stuff. If you value people, then realize that the less you have, the more time you have to spend time with the friends and family that you care about. The pets that you love. The children that you adore.
I had decided 3 months ago, to pack up a bunch of clothing that I felt I never wore in a box. I thought to myself, if I don’t miss this clothing for 3 months, there is a high chance, I am never going to miss them. Last weekend, I opened up the box, and without really looking through the clothing, put it into a garbage bag, which is headed straight to the Salvation Army clothing donation box. There are at least 30 pieces of clothing in there, which I have worn barely in the past year and a half. I am not going to miss it, but I’m sure someone out there will love it and use it even if it’s just one time more than me.
How do you get rid of the stuff that you are drowning in?