Drowning in stuff

Photo attributed to flickr user Temari 09

I was speaking to an ex of mine a few months ago, and his lament about his girlfriend came floating back to me, while I was packing up clothes from my closet to donate. He was complaining that because his girlfriend has so much stuff, they literally didn’t have enough space in all the closets to fit it in. She took over all the closet space in all of their apartment, resulting in him having to squeeze his few paltry items into one drawer, that she graciously bestowed upon him.

He was upset about it to say the least. He felt like a guest in his own home, because his girlfriend could not control her spending and refused to get rid of any of her stuff, in order to fit a loving boyfriend into her life. This made me wonder.

Why do we pay more attention to the stuff in our life, than to the relationships? Why do we take care of our cars and phones better than our health? Of course, these questions don’t really matter in the scheme of things. The more important thing is to make sure that your priorities are aligned with your values. If you value stuff, then go ahead and buy more things, ignore your relationships, because you are too busy working to make the money that you need to buy the stuff. If you value people, then realize that the less you have, the more time you have to spend time with the friends and family that you care about. The pets that you love. The children that you adore.

I had decided 3 months ago, to pack up a bunch of clothing that I felt I never wore in a box. I thought to myself, if I don’t miss this clothing for 3 months, there is a high chance, I am never going to miss them. Last weekend, I opened up the box, and without really looking through the clothing, put it into a garbage bag, which is headed straight to the Salvation Army clothing donation box. There are at least 30 pieces of clothing in there, which I have worn barely in the past year and a half. I am not going to miss it, but I’m sure someone out there will love it and use it even if it’s just one time more than me.

How do you get rid of the stuff that you are drowning in?

A different retirement plan

I was travelling to the States the past weekend. I noticed while visiting a gas station and a coffee shop in Buffalo that both of the people who served me at these places were older individuals. They were both definitely in their fifties or sixties. It seemed to me that both of these individuals were close to or over their retirement age, but unfortunately they were still working a night shift in a minimum wage job.

Obviously I do not know the situation for either of them. But something that came up in my head was that they must have been affected by the recession. Either they relied on their house values for their retirement or they relied on stocks which fell abruptly through the sub-prime crisis. In any case, they were being forced to rely on going back to work when they should have been lazing around at home with their spouses or their grandchildren.

This made me think of our own situation. Generation X as we are called, have already been two recessions. We are the generation born between 1982 and 2000. I was wondering what we have learnt about retirement from focusing on what’s been happening with the Baby Boomer generation. Something that clicked with me is that we cannot rely on either our homes or stocks to ensure that we will retire in time. It just doesn’t make any sense. I mean, looking at what’s been happening in the past, obviously both of these are prone to crashes and are completely unreliable when you wish to retire at a certain time.

Some things that I was thinking was that:

  1. Either you decide you are going to give up the idea of retiring at a certain age in the future, maybe 60 or 65? Maybe retirement as a concept itself needs to change in our heads. We shouldn’t think of retirement as something that happens in the far off future. We need to start thinking of mini-retirements as more of a norm. Taking one year off every few years during our working life would ensure that we are not going to need a big chunk of money at the end of our working life.
  2. The reason we are not going to need a big chunk of money at the end of our working life would be because we are going to keep on working in little bite-size pieces throughout. We are going use our hobbies to fund our lifestyle till the end of our lives. We might use our blogs as a source of income, or jewellery that we make or teaching yoga, etc.
  3. I was also thinking that we need to rethink of what our homes mean to us. We should think of our home as a retirement plan not as the value of the house, but as rental property. Modifying our homes when we are older so we can have a renter staying there ensure that we have a steady source of income throughout our semi-retired years.
  4. It doesn’t mean that we stop investing in RRSPs or retirement mutual funds. We just have to be careful not to put all of our eggs in one basket.

What do you guys think would be important for Gen Y to think with regards to retirement?

Simplify Everything

I was reading a post by Becoming Minimalist – The 10 Most Important Things to Simplify in your Life. Sidenote, I love this blog – absolutely pure and insightful, its like the first drop of rain after a long drought. Fresh, and clean.

I have been a proponent of Minimalistic living for a long time now. I absolutely love simplifying my life. I have simplified my finances, so that everything is automatic, and I do not have to worry about whether I am saving enough or paying off my credit card on time. Due to the miracle that is online banking, I have everything absolutely automated.

I also have minimized my possessions. I have very little compared to many in North America, I have a lot compared to people in any of the developing countries. I try to buy little, and I try to minimize what I already own.

But something I didn’t realize that I need to simplify is my thinking. Simplify thinking. That itself blew my mind. Huh? I was driving in the car and I realized, oh yeah, that’s something I just didn’t even think about. Simplify thinking.

Stop judging others. Simplify your opinions. Talk less, think less. Meditate more. Stay quiet. Use smaller, simpler sentences in email and conversation. Judge less. Love more.

What do you think of Simplifying your thinking? Let me know in the comments below.

Love and Light to all!