Brownvagabonder's Blog

I was helping my friend paint on the weekend and she had a girlfriend over. We began off with the usual niceties, how are you, hello. But not even ten minutes had passed and she began on a rampage. She had received a text from an ex-boyfriend, who was trying hard not to be an ex anymore. They had been on four dates, as both of them had broken up with their respective others, and wanted to see if they could try again. Apparently they could not. He promised her he would drop by on Superbowl weekend, and she waited. And waited. Waited on the couch. Nothing. No text message. No call. Nothing came forth. She was fuming. The next day, he calls. His phone broke. And miraculously fixed in one night.

She said, no more. We tried, this is your second strike. We are done. So they text each other, trying to fix their relationship.

Texting to fix relationships is something so new, but I feel that it is something that doesn’t really work well. Why did friends advice you in the old days not to call and break up on the phone? Why do people tell you to meet in person and break up? That is the best way to do it. There are no misunderstandings. You are doing a brave thing, standing up to someone and telling them you do not like them enough to spend time with them anymore. Texting has a lot of negatives to it. If you text someone something, there are a lot of different ways to interpret it, because there are only emotions to put on there, a smiley face or a sad face. Whereas humans have a wide range of emotions they can talk through. Also, I feel that it puts you in a negative light. Are you that much of a coward, that you cannot come up to me face-to-face and tell me you dont want to be with me anymore? Seriously?

Texting alright, but the worse thing nowadays, which guys seem to be doing a lot of, is breakuping by stopping all contacts, out of the blue. They just stop calling, emailing, facebooking, or texting. It is as if they have fallen off the face of the planet. Randomly out of the blue. My friend gave me a story. She met this guy in New York on a business trip. He is talking about them moving in together in New York. She’s looking for a job in NY. All of a sudden, he stops contacting her. Nothing to it. They were planning to go to a concert together, that she had tickets for, so she decided to do girl’s weekend at NY. They got to the concert, the first person standing there is her ex. The coward. He didn’t expect her. He also didn’t expect a glass of beer on his clothes. He deserved it.

But I have talked about this before. Men being men. I watch olden movies, and I find that men are not men anymore in this day and age. Sure, they are emotional and metrosexual. But that is not the point. That is just the outer surface.  I am talking about the inside of  man. The core. It is all putty. There is no substance to the men of today. They are not strong. They are all cowering pieces of flesh. My friend was being attacked by a bunch of guys, who were drunk and wanted her parking space. Her boyfriend was in the car behind her and he did nothing. Absolutely nothing. He just sat there, while she got bloodied up.

What is going on here? Is it North American men? Are men better in other parts of the world? I would love to answer that question for the ladies of Toronto. Because we are sorely disappointed. So so disappointed.