When Thenix and I first started speaking about travelling to South America for 1 whole year, he was extremely excited about one notion and one notion alone. He wanted to see the beautiful places, the beautiful cultures, and the beautiful monuments. He wanted to explore this world that we’ve been placed on for a very brief period. He wanted to learn a new language, and become fluent in it. He wanted to have time to explore his hobbies and interests.
But at the top of his list was, He wanted a year without winter. How simple is that request? While I have been lamenting about finding my passion, taking time away from the doldrums, discovering my true nature, and all of that bogus stuff, Thenix had one simple request. He didn’t like the cold. He doesn’t like the winter. He wanted to have a year where he wouldn’t have to experience winter, unless he chose to. I mention this request, because often times, we make something out to be more difficult or complicated then it really is.
‘Keeping it Simple’ isn’t hard for most people, it is impossible. We find it easier to deal with situations or circumstances if they have a lot of drama in them, if they have to dealt with delicately, if you have to tip-toe around them. We know how to deal with complicated. We know how to deal with convoluted. We do not know how to deal with simple. We do not even know how to let it remain simple.
When I first began dating Thenix, it was simple. He liked me, and I liked him. Simple. But I had to complicate it in my head. I bought up my ex, who was his friend, I bought up my recent breakup, I bought up the fact that he had recently broken up with someone who hurt him, I bought up our different cultures, I bought up his good nature. I bought up anything and everything that I could to complicate the situation. I couldn’t leave it alone. I had to un-simplify a situation to be able to deal with it properly.
The next time you are trying to bring some drama or complicated into a situation, step back and stop. You deal with enough complicated in your life. You deal with a lot in your life. Do not try to complicate every situation that comes into your life. Sometimes the objective should be to just trust and let go. Trust and Let Go. Assume, you know that the simple situation is happening as-is for a reason.
Trust and Let Go. Try it and see. It is definitely harder than it looks.