For a generation like ours where everything is fast and disposable, fast food, speed dates, fast cars, disposable cups, disposable underwears, disposable housing, we have a hard time concentrating on any one thing. I can’t imagine how it could get any worse for the future generations, but we have it pretty bad ourselves. We have short attention spans and that is a fact. In that short attention span, there are many displacements that occur, but one that I wish to talk about in this blog post is about relationships.
For me, a forever relationship freaks the hell out of me. I see so many people moving in and out of relationships, it seems that relationships have a really short half-life in the early 21st century. We are all ready to boogie for a second or two, but we see something new and shiny around us, and we want to boogie with them. We are ready to be polygamous, we are ready to try out different people – like they are the flavour of the day icecream. We aren’t ready to commit. We are too afraid to commit.
The idea of being with one person forever excites me to no end. It is the start of a beautiful thing – as portrayed in a billion movies. But what happens 20-30 years into the forever? What happens when you’ve been together forever and boredom or routine sets in? That idea of the 7-year itch scares me, but also makes perfect sense to me. In fact, the 7-year itch could really be reduced to the 2 year itch. How can our attention spans bear the span of 7 years? That just seems too long. 2 years is more doable.
Of course, there are hundreds of couples who have been together forever (more than 2 years) and are making it work, and will continue to make it work. But I am still afraid. I notice this fear in a lot of my friends as well. How can a generation of men who are used to video games and fast food stick with one person forever? How can a generation of women who are used to disposable tampons and 10 minute manicures stick with one person forever?
I don’t know, but I’m attempting to try – Happy 1 year anniversary to Boom and Thenix. Talk to me in a year.