Boredom and the new age

6 03 2011

“I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take, all the books I want to read, and all the friends I want to see.”
John Burroughs

I have been a victim of boredom-itis since I was in my teens. I used to complain of being bored all the time. I am bored, Mum. I am bored enough to die. I was always bored. There was nothing to do. Either it was too hot outside to go play, or too rainy. I always found excuses to be bored. My mother, of course, didn’t find that amusing. When I was younger, I always found ways of entertaining myself. There was always a lot of things to do. A lot of dirt to be dug up and eaten, a lot of mountains to be climbed and fallen off of, a lot of games to be made up and beaten at. How could you get bored when there’s so much to do?

But now. Now it is a completely different story. I feel like we are so used to being on the go all the time, go, go, go. That when we do get a few moments to just be, to do nothing, we have nothing to do. We are unable to do nothing. We are literally paralyzed with fear that we are useless when we have a few moments free. Why do I have these moments free? Am I useless? Am I a useless member of society? What is the point of me being alive? I see all of the people on television with busy, full lives, because of course, TV is the accurate portrayal of reality, that is why they call it, Reality TV. And then I see me, with a weekend full of long, unfilled hours.

In addition, I find that with the loss of a mode of transportation in the short winter days, I have nowhere to go. When I had a car, I would just fill it up with gas, and just drive randomly on the highway, the music blasting away. I could spend hours just going up 400 North, and then coming down 400 South, an hour and a half each way. A waste of gas, but a time-filler. I didn’t really see any sights, I would see a service station or two, and a lot of zooming vehicles.

My family and I roam around on the weekend as crazy zombies, looking for something to do. I want to be busy, really busy, really, really busy. After running around the world, and looking for peace, I find that, I am too young to find peace. I just want to work at two jobs, and have no time to think. I want to work and work and have no time to do anything else. Until I make enough money to go traveling again.

I have realized after semi-retiring at the age of 26, that I don’t like retirement. Even if now it is a bit forced upon me, by the fact that I cannot find a job. No one wants to hire me, for fear that I will leave on them again? Alternative lifestyle is what I wanted, but I didn’t realize that the rest of the world is content with 9-5 doldrums. I want to work for a long while still, but the good thing is that now i want to work. I am not being forced to work by the powers that be. That is the difference. Choice matters.





Mature

22 07 2009

I was lying in bed last night thinking happy thoughts about life in general and my work and I really wished I could share some of this happiness with the world.

I was also wanted to share some of my thoughts on male-female relationships and the act of coupling. But I wasn’t sure how my blog would be categorized if I did chat about s-e-x :) or about some other mature content.

I am really excited because I got this really cool book, ‘WordPress for Dummies’. I am looking forward to reading more about how I can use the myriad features on WordPress that I’m sure I am not using. I have been dying to create a header for my blog with a picture of me with my beautiful jade backpack ( I am getting too attached to this backpack – thats not a good thing).

I’m taking this Friday off from work, because I wanted to spend some time with a friend who’s leaving soon. You can’t imagine all the agonizing hours of debate that I had with myself, because I didn’t want to spend any money on Friday. I knew if I went out with her, I would end up spending money on food, and then, when we go shopping, which we will, cos she just loves shopping, I know I would be tempted by all the goodies in the store. Avoidance of shopping malls is the reason why I have been able to reduce my spending on clothing. Not that I would buy anything, I am only taking 20$ with me on this day, so that even if I was tempted by something ( I always get tempted and then I forget about the item 2 hours after I leave the store), I wouldn’t be able to buy anything. I hate being like this sometimes, worrying about spending money to the exclusion of spending time with friends. If only my friends were a bit more understanding, but they don’t understand the different goals I have from them. I do not want to accumulate stuff, I want to reduce it, and I dont want to climb the corporate ladder, I want to travel.

But I am happy that I decided to go this Friday and spend time with one of my oldest friends ( known her for about 14 years). I dont have many old friends still keeping in touch with me, like this face to face, because of all the moving around I did all throughout my childhood. Its going to be an expensive weekend though, which is why I am not looking forward to it. Besides the expenses, I’m looking forward to it, as its going to be fun, seeing old friends. I’m seeing another friend on Saturday whom I haven’t seen in 6 years. I guess, this doesn’t really show me in a good light, as I am really horrible at keeping in touch with friends, thank god for FaceBook and MSN messenger.

Im also planning to purchase a netbook this weekend, which is why I’m a bit nervous, its my third biggest purchase for the trip, besides the airline ticket ( $1500) and the backpack ( $215). Eek! I know, I’m probably making a big deal out of it, but after being in save mode for so long, its sooooo hard to spend money, even on the smallest thing. The weird thing is that I’d rather be starving to death, than spend $2 on a sandwich. I hate that aspect about my personality, I try to be aware of it, and not be like that, as much as I can. But it sneaks out whenever I’m not paying attention.





Roberto Linares Brown

4 07 2009

Finally, yesterday after bugging about 2o of my friends through text messages, I got someone to come with me to waterfront. I took the subway there, finally getting to use the metropass I bought for the month. There is a Waterfront festival going on at this time, so it was really cool. We got to see this Cuban singer with his band. For free! Which is my favorite kind of concert. I did buy some street meat (yum!) and an apple ( I know, bad Shikha, but I really needed some fibre and goodness after that streetmeat and it only cost about 69 cents), which total cost me $5.60. So all in all, it was a pretty cheap night, but really fun.

The cuban band played amazing music and random people in the crowd started dancing with each other, it was amazing. I went with two friends, and it was so much fun. I was dancing around on my own while they played, and it really made me want to go learn salsa or go to a salsa club. The funny thing is that it didn’t make me want to have a boyfriend, and usually these kind of things make me want to have a boyfriend. Cos, I see the girls, hugging and kissing their guys and it usually invokes something in me. But yesterday, I was happy, standing there in my cool linen pants and I was glad, that I was on my own, so I could do these impulse of the moment things, and not have anyone else to worry about.

I took the subway back as well and that was loads of fun, I sat and read a book of mine. I’m so glad I am the kind of person I am. Listening to the girls who were with me, chat about how they were afraid to walk around at night by themselves in Toronto ( the safest city in the world, according to me), I was thinking, I’m really happy that I am not afraid of being on my own. I spend so much time on my own, walking around, and eating, that I am totally comfortable being on my own in any situation. Its totally fine with me. And I’m happier for it. I dont always need someone to be with me.

I had the weirdest dream last night as well. I have a lot of odd dreams, but they are never really the dreams I feel I can analyze, as they seem too open and direct in what they are trying to tell me. For example, I dreamt last night, that I went to my birth town and was sitting and teaching the kids there Maths. And then I decided to grab a bicycle and roam from place to place and meet up with childhood friends of mine, who hadn’t changed at all since I had last seen them, and seemed to sitting in the same spot as when I last saw them. Does this mean, that I feel like going back to my birthplace and my childhood towns, and visiting them? I dont know if that makes sense. I have always been adamant that I dont want to go back to the places that I have already been to, there are so many amazing places in the world to see. Its my duty to see all the rest of them, before going back to the ones that I have already seen. But who knows?

Maybe my subconscious knows me better than me ( probably), and I will eventually end up going back to the places I used to live in when I was younger. That would be fun, I guess. I had always imagined when I left those places to come to N.America, that I would eventually do great things and people will know me, just by my name. Obviously, that hasn’t happened, which I’m happier for, otherwise, I wouldn’t be able to do a world trip without drawing attention to myself.

Now I am going to go eat something and then I have kind of a jampacked day, where I am going to do some errands, and then go meet up with some friends downtown again. Hopefully, it’s another cheap night, as I have 12 dollars in my wallet, and I dont want to take out more money until next weekeend.








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