I wanted to share my thoughts on sex and other mature stuff like that on this blog as well, because I think that the American culture is a culture of contradictions when it comes to sex. They are obsessed with it, while at the same time, being totally controlled and ashamed about it. I wanted to have a forum where I can discuss things about sex without feeling ashamed about it. I talk about this with my guy friends to see what a guy’s opinion on it would be, and I wanted to share that with you, anonymously obviously.
I wanted to keep it as a separate page, so if you didn’t want to read it, you weren’t rudely interrupted by mature content. Enjoy!
A guy friend of mine and I chat all the time about sex and what it means to a guy or a girl, trying to get some insight that we would never get from our own relationships. A relationship I feel sometimes is really a cleaned up version of everything else. You cannot really be honest in a relationship, unless you really want fights. Maybe there are some relationships out there, in which the guy and girl are so secure in their relationship that they never lie to each other, I just have never had the opportunity to see a relationship like that, or even be in a relationship like that. I was telling him that I would never sleep with him, exactly because he has a girlfriend. That would so not be cool with me. And that started him on his daily rant, why are girls like that? Why do girls take relationships so seriously? He says that its completely different for a guy, where for a girl, her guy means everything to them. To a girl, the thought of dating two guys would be extremely stressful and not at all exciting. Whereas, for a guy, it is totally exciting. No two girls are ever the same. He said, its so much fun figuring out what makes each girl tick, what she likes, doesnt like, what makes her smile, what gets her turned on. Guys are boring, all it takes for a guy is a naked girl. And the thing for guys is that, they can totally separate fun from love, girls have a reaallly hard time doing that.
I totally agreed with him on that one. It took me years to understand that sex does not equate love. The physical act of love being performed doesn’t mean the guy is in love with me – obviously. Double duh on that one! But now, I know, it means nothing. Sex is just sex. Its just the physical act of coupling. No one nowadays cares much. Cheating in a relationship is common place, with guys and girls both equally being the guilty party.
For me, I just love one night stands. I know thats a horrible thing to say. But after the whole drama of being in a relationship (ugh!), I would rather just take from a guy the one thing that I need from him, and keep my great single life going as well. I still sometimes though, have to mentally slap myself – saying, okay, now, dont think he’s going to call you, just because he has taken your phone number. That is just a formality. My guy friend said that for guys, they dont mental slaps, they just need to turn on their emotions when they are with their girlfriends, and turn them off when they are just with random chicks. Guys like uncomplicated, simple things, and this is a simple way for them to deal with two separate girls and not be confused by weird stuff, like emotions.
