I have this policy of learning from the people around me, and as I’m as imperfect as they come, I have a lot of learning to do. One of the people I learn a lot from every day is Thenix. One of the things that surprised me about him is that he is friends with every single one of his exes. He helps them fix their cars, drives them places if they need it, and other little things, that says to me, they are not just acquaintances, but friends.
I have had this policy from the first time I broke up with someone, to never be friends with my exes. Why keep that saga of your life in your life? Forget and move on. Unfortunately, that meant that all of those wonderful friendships that I had forged with some amazing men, was lost. You spend a lot of time with a person in a relationship and you are going to lose that all, because you are no longer seeing each other. I realized that whilst speaking with Thenix over his reasons for staying friends with his exes. I decided to revamp my friendships with as many exes as I could.
One of my major relationships was with this individual who embodied the title of this post. He didn’t realize that we’re neither of us ordinary and every day that we were together wasn’t ordinary either.
Whenever my friends ask me about Thenix, why I am with him, or why he’s with me, or why I would ever be with someone, I have to just point out the feeling I get when I’m around him. He makes me feel like I’m special, extraordinary, that his life wouldn’t be the same without me. And I hope I make him feel the same way. This feeling of ecstasy, the feeling you get when you first get into a relationship, is the reason I first got into the relationship, but after 8 months of togetherness, I realize that the feeling is something that is here to stay. It might not be as full-blown as the first time we kissed, but the butterflies in my stomach and the love that I feel for him is going to be a constant.
I tell my girlfriends, to find someone who sees the beauty in them, that I do as a friend of theirs. I realize every single one of them are amazing human beings that make the world a better place by being in it, and the guy who is going to be their partner has to feel that as well.
Ending off the post, on a comedic note, I go back to this every single time I think of my exes, ‘Have you ever looked at your ex and wondered if you were drunk the entire relationship?’
Makes me laugh and cry every single time.