I have spoken to you (my readers) about having given up a couple of major long-term relationships over the past year. One of the breakups was my partner-in-crime, Thenix, who went on the Road trip with me – which was a necessary breakup for both of our sanities. And the others were friendships that had lasted for years, and I had outgrown.
Recently, I had a chance to revisit with a couple of my foregone relationships, and it was a really pleasant surprise. I met up with them randomly and my first thought was, ‘Oh my god. We used to be so close. And now you are just a stranger.’ The feeling of familiarity, of putting on a familiar pair of glove, was gone. They were similar to a stranger I would walk past on the street, and never think about again. I had nothing in common with them. We exchanged random niceties, but there was very little there!Continue reading →
I’m a big believer in minimalism. Not materialist minimalism, although that’s part of it, but time and energy minimalism. The body is given only so much energy a day. – James Altucher
A bunch of ladies have asked me to compile a list of all the clothing swaps that I know of in the beautiful city of Toronto. We are lucky enough to live in a city where clothing swaps are abundant, and not frowned upon. A lot of the items I find at the swap still has their tags on them, and some of the others look like they have been used once or twice at most.
I have been to a few of these swaps, so I have added in comments about what you can expect at the swap, if I liked the swap or not, what kind of items I received from the swap, etc. This way you will have an insider-look into the swap and you can decide whether you want to try them out or not. Continue reading →
You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection. – Buddha
For the first time in my 31 years on this planet, I have learned how to love myself despite all of my innumerable flaws. It feels odd even saying it out loud to the world – I love myself even though I’m not perfect. It is such a weird notion. How can I be lovable, when I know myself so well? I know every thought that passes through my head – I know all the horrible things that I can think of, the awful things I have said, the mean things I have done. I know myself so well.
When I was a tween and younger, I was honest to a fault. My mother knew that if I said something it was because it was true. She accepted it as gospel. She didn’t even question it, because she knew that I did not lie, not ever. When I went through my rebellious teenager phase, I was a pain in my mother’s arse, but I did not lie. I was honest about everything. I disappeared all night with my friends, doing nothing more than drinking Coke, and eating chips on the stairs in my fancy Dubai apartment building. Continue reading →
Yoga has a sly, clever way of short circuiting the mental patterns that cause anxiety. – Baxter Bell
I have had a bunch of people ask me lately about doing hot yoga in the summer. As you go through spring and summer, you will notice in your hot yoga classes, that the attendance really falls. There are so few people compared to wintertime. Whereas in the winter, there could be 40 people in your class, now there are maybe 10 at most. Of course, people are travelling in the summer, and doing more outdoor activities, but I think a lot of people don’t like the idea of going into a hot, humid room to practice yoga when they are already hot and sweaty from the summery day. It’s all well and good, when it’s -40 degrees Celsius outside, to go into a heated room. Continue reading →
Those who improve with age embrace the power of personal growth and personal achievement and begin to replace youth with wisdom, innocence with understanding, and lack of purpose with self-actualization.- Bo Bennett
I have had quite a few moments in the past few months that have made me feel quite powerless.
I don’t know what to say about those moments. Coming back from a trip where I felt out of control and powerless everyday, due to circumstances that were controlled by officials or rules or laws that I had no say in. Being let go from a job where I was powerless against my boss yelling at me for no apparent reason, and having no control over my destiny. Being let go from a relationship where the power balance was skewed in the other person’s favour (not through anyone’s fault). Continue reading →
I spent a lot of years trying to outrun or outsmart vulnerability by making things certain and definite, black and white, good and bad. My inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limited the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty: Love, belonging, trust, joy, and creativity to name a few. – Brene Brown
Now I know that my blog isn’t unique in anyway. A lot of my thoughts are regurgitated and recycled. There are hundreds others out there who have the same opinion as me, who have written about it on their own blogs. Continue reading →
Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting. – Joyce Meyer
In the past few days, I have been spending a lot of my time, waiting in line-ups, sitting in planes, sitting in trains, waiting to arrive, waiting to reach some destination, waiting to get to some desired point. I have realized just how much time we spend in lines, and waiting for things to happen. It might be grocery line-ups, or it might be just waiting to get home. It doesn’t really matter. It is still time that we are using up, precious time that we could be using for something useful.
My sister bought a mini-keyboard for her iPad, and she has been typing up a Sci-Fi novel (I expect it to be a best-seller), while she commutes on the subway system for 2 hours every day. She usually ends up getting a seat, so she sits in her seat, typing furiously on her keyboard. People stare at her, thinking that she’s a weirdo, probably, while they sit there twiddling their thumbs, waiting to get to their destination. She has finished her book and now she sits there editing it. Can you believe that? She spent her commute time, writing up a sci-fi novel. That is absolutely amazing. Such a great use of waiting time. Continue reading →
It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It’s what we do consistently. ― Anthony Robbins
One of the hardest things I have to do on this planet is to be consistent. I talk to a lot of my millennial friends, and one of the main things that keeps on coming up is that they have a hard time sticking to something. It doesn’t matter if that something is big or small – it might be a small habit like brushing their teeth before they go to bed, or something big, like sticking with learning how to play an instrument.
I have had this same issue over and over again. I have started something, gotten really excited about it, and then given up on it, the minute it got hard. I thought that I was being cool, that I was trying a lot of new stuff out, that I was being the Jack-of-all-trades. But I wasn’t really! I was just being lazy and inconsistent. Continue reading →